By: Katherine Marple
On the minds of millions these past days are what new year’s resolutions we are going to aim for this coming year. Dan Diamond of Forbes.com wrote on New Year’s Day 2013 that only 8 percent of resolvers actually achieve their goals by the end of the year.
Most people aim too high. Others don’t take into account daily adjustments they need to make to account for interference from life in general. Many stop pushing toward their goals after falling off the wagon just once, feeling defeated or too pressured by their timeline.
When setting the goal to lower my A1c to 6.5% in 2013, I didn’t account for the stress that would be a part of my life while raising two infant children. I have made mistakes–a lot of them. My last A1c came in at 7.8% a few months ago and I’m simply working toward getting it lower. I did not reach that goal this year, but I didn’t give up and am still aiming for it again this year.
The long and the short of it is that I want to be healthy. I want to feel strong and capable in my body. There is no end goal for that; it is a lifelong achievement that is tasked on a daily basis.
I wanted to donate blood to Red Cross four times in 2013. I tried really hard to achieve this and showed up at several appointments to donate, only to be turned away due to low iron. The low iron was a result of birthing my second child in late 2012 and it took much longer to bounce back health-wise than I had expected. In the end, I’ve donated just three times this year; but that is still three times more than I had the previous year. That’s a success. This goal is a lifelong goal and I plan to do the same every year.
I wanted to be credit card debt-free by the end of 2013. I’ve come close, but did not achieve that goal either. But, the debt is dwindling and we will get there… eventually.
Looking at this short list of 2013 resolutions, it seems that I haven’t met any of them. But, 2013 was not a year of failure. I may not have reached those specific goals, but I am definitely headed in the right direction in every task. I can’t be frustrated with that kind of improvement.
All areas of my life are a work in progress. As a mom, wife, author; emotionally, spiritually, intellectually. I’m always trying to do better, without letting my past influence too much of my future. I am regularly taking a look at my life and researching what else is out there. I want to evolve and improve on every aspect of who I am… continuously.
How many people do you know say they will start their diet “tomorrow?” On New Year’s Eve, how many people were shoveling in huge ice cream sundaes, pizza, or pouring down the beers, because their diet starts “tomorrow” and they’re going to cut down on drinking alcohol “tomorrow?” All that really happened was they started their new year off with 1,500 extra calories to burn off or a hangover. Every day is a chance to be the person you want to be.
I think we are all trying to do well. We are all trying to be better, but sometimes feel stagnant and lost. But for me, my immediate family is a team of cheerleaders and it’s hard to feel lost when I’m with them. When I’m trying to do even the simplest of tasks, my two year old daughter excitedly yells “You… can… do it, Momma!” I smile as I write this, thinking, she cheers when I simply walk into a room. She blindly believes in my abilities. Knowing all that I have to offer and all the tools I’ve collected along the way, I believe in myself too. Let’s get working!
So, it’s a new year; it’s a new beginning. Today is a chance to take stock in what we have accomplished and what we will accomplish. We don’t need to rely on the turn of the calendar page to make changes. We only need to take time, several days per year, to see where we are and compare it to where we want to be. It’s an ongoing process.
Life is a journey. We fall down at times, but hopefully always find a way to get back up. We look back on our past and try to gain insight into how we need to take those next steps toward becoming who we want to become. Every success and every misstep leads to the same thing: a person trying to push forward. Every day that we live is a chance to be better. Happy new year. Joyous new day.
Katherine Marple was diagnosed with type 1 diabetes at age 14 in 1998. The mother of two small children, she has battled insulin resistance, pre-eclampsia, CGM and pump failures, leading to insulin therapy via MDI using Levemir and Apidra, and sometimes metformin. She is the author of two diabetes related novels,”Wretched (this is my sorry)” and “Deathly Sweet.”